People will tell you that persistence is a good thing. Those people have never had to deal with online dating, that takes persistence to a whole new level…and in a manner that is typically not welcomed. Sometimes persistence looks like multiple messages from the same person repeatedly that are copied and pasted and make it clear the person cannot remember sending the same line (or novel) 2 days prior. Other times it is someone being a little more pushy in their attempt to get their message noticed (not a strategy I would recommend in case you are wondering).
Then there is the level of persistence that boarders on crazy, intensely annoying and mildly disturbing. Let me give you a for instance; one person had a strong opening, a good thought out message followed by pleasant back and forth conversation that inspires the slightest spark of hope in a sea of cringe worthy opening lines and introductions.
This hope was quickly dashed later that same evening when they sent the dreaded line “send me a pic”…*sigh* this isn’t my first rodeo and I am well aware this is never a good sign. Keep in mind that there is in fact several pictures of myself on my dating profile – no lazy/ disheartening grey generic “missing profile image” here!
I tell the person that I will not be doing that…and in true online creep fashion they proceed to push the issue, claiming that they are scared that I am cat-fishing them and the only way to prove myself is to send them a selfie at 9 o’clock at night…
They had eventually relented and the next morning I decided to go against my better judgment and believe that maybe this person had legitimate reasons for being concerned about online cat-fishing (these stories do seem to be becoming more and more common lately) and since the rest of the conversation had been promising I decided I would humour him and send a picture I had that didn’t make the profile cut. Of course, I instantly regretted doubting my veteran instincts when after 5 minutes of back to normal texting came “send me a sexy pic babe”… HARD PASS!
I mean, you’re joking right!? (he wasn’t). This is obviously no longer a “concerned” person, and clearly never was, the end game reveals all. The number is blocked and deleted, conversation ended, do not pass go, you are the weakest link…goodbye.
Three weeks later I realize the downfall of having so many means of communication at our fingertips when I get a quizzical message with a not so sincere apology for how they had behaved. They went on to say that they were “the guy I blocked for asking for a pic”… no sir, you are the guy I blocked for pushing inappropriate pictures and being disrespectful, not for simply asking for an innocent picture as you would like me to believe.
Needless to say, this time I did not second guess myself or doubt my online dating instinct and absolutely did not buy into the latest message claiming the person had changed and “majorly re-evaluated” their personality traits over the three weeks of radio silence. I am sorry/ not sorry to say that this is not a second chance situation, and simply means yet another number to block.